How to make people like you

Six Tips To Make People Like You

Have you ever wondered why or if people like you? It is strange why people like some people more than others and even stranger how they go about liking that person in the first place. MNH36PRKTK5Y

I have thought a lot about why we like certain people and how we go about making them like us in the first place. Now I do not mean that you go out of your way to make people like you and you go to extraordinary lengths and use methods and techniques to achieve this, I am talking about how you genuinely get people to like you by being you and just being the best person you can be. MNH36PRKTK5Y

Obviously if you happen to be arrogant or nasty or spiteful then your chances of being genuinely liked by someone are most likely pretty slim.

First of all you need to genuinely be interested in other people. I mean actually be interested in what other people do in their lives, Have you ever noticed that when you talk to most people the conversation normally revolves around them. What they did last night, I want to do this, me, me, me, I, I ,I. this is because most peoples main interest is themselves. They love talking about themselves. I mean if they do not talk about themselves then who else will? Other people try to impress you all the time, they always have to better than everybody else in order to gain your approval and hope you will be their friend. This is all good and well but it quite often has the reverse effect in that you are friends with them but you do not genuinely like them for who they are because you know they are only trying to win your friendship.

If you genuinely become interested in other peoples lives and do it sincerely you will find people can not help but like you because they know you really are interested in what they have to say.

First impressions are said to be everything. We generally make a decision about what we think a person is like within a few seconds of meeting them. So if you meet someone and you look sad and miserable, what do you think they will remember about you? They will most likely remember you were the sad and miserable one. It is very easy to get people to dislike you, just be the most arrogant and obnoxious person you can think and people will dislike you a long time. Once this damage is done it is hard to convince people that you are anything else but arrogant.

So why not make the correct first impression in the first place. It is so easy and it will ensure you are liked from the first time you meet someone. All you need to do is “smile”. If you smile when you meet someone they can not help but like you because everyone loves a smile! You do not have to be rich, special or even the most powerful person in the world. A smile costs nothing and creates happiness and long term friendships.

Something you do when you meet someone for the first time is ask them their name. But how many of us actually forget that name within a few minutes of meeting them or even discard it after you have finished talking to them? The one thing that people love the sound of the most is their own name because it means you are talking about them, thinking about them and this generally makes them feel good. As I said earlier people love talking about themselves and to know that someone else remembers their name and is talking about them makes them feel good. And I mean in a good way because gossip and malice will get you no where.

Have you ever met somebody for a second time and not been able to remember their name? I have and let me tell you it made me feel terrible so this person must have felt quite annoyed I could not remember their name. From then on I made a point of remembering a persons name after I met them.

People often tell me I am an interesting person. Now I do not have any extraordinary hobbies or anything I would consider to be special. They also tell me that I am a good conversationalist but when I do have a conversation I really do not say a lot at times. I sat down and thought about this and decided that it must be because I listen to people and what they have to say. I encourage people to talk about themselves and we all know that is what people like to do.

To me it is important to listen to people because you get to know people and they like to have someone to talk to about things. It would surprise you how much people like someone who is prepared to genuinely listen to what they have to say and advise them on what you think they should do based on what they have said. You actually do need to listen to what is said because if you just sit there listening to white noise then when you do say something you run the risk of making a fool of yourself which will damage your chances of being liked.

Being interesting to people can seem like a huge thing to accomplish but it can be relatively easy to achieve. You just need to be able to talk to someone based on their own interests. Sometimes it may take a little time to find out what their interests are but everybody has a passion for something and if you find out what it is it can make you the most interesting person in the world to someone you have just met. For instance if you are going to meet someone for a business meeting and you know that their main interest is their car, you can do a little research into the type of car they have. When you meet them, ask questions about it with a genuine interest and will forge much better relations for you and make you a much more interesting person. All it takes is a little effort on your part and the rewards can be better friendships and you will find people are more than happy to help you when you need it.

The importance of making somebody feel important is often overlooked. You may often think that something somebody is showing you or telling you is boring, trivial or even pointless. To them it could be the most important thing in the world right now and having somebody else indulge them and making them feel important means a lot to them. If you fail to acknowledge this you risk damaging your friendship, business and more importantly it could change what that person thinks about you. So what am I talking about? Well as an example a friend of mine had just purchased a new car. To them it was the best thing in the world, something they always wanted and now they had one. What do you think I did? I spent time with them, I asked them questions about it and I asked them to take me for a spin! I probably spent about and hour just talking about their car. Too many, it is probably a lot of time to spend talking about a car but to me it meant I could indulge my friend in his purchase with genuine interest. He felt important and happy that someone was interested in what he had purchased and I found myself getting a lift to the pub as he was more than happy to take me in his new car!

I have talked about quite a lot above about how to get people to like you. I do not consider any of these ideas to tricks to get people to like you. I believe they are more about the person you are and incorporating these ideas into your personality and your life can not only be fulfilling but can ultimately make your life a lot more fruitful and enjoyable. I am going to bullet point below the main tips to take from the article:

1. Be genuinely interested in people

2. Always smile

3. Remember peoples names

4. Become a good listener

5. Talk to people in terms of their own interests

6. Make people feel important

I have written this article based on my own life experiences and how I genuinely feel people should be treated and I often find that this is true. Thanks for reading.

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