Competing with yourself

Competing with yourself

During our lives we encounter many people. We work with them, socialise with them we see random people everyday whilst out shopping or commuting. One thing we do with all of these people is compare ourselves to them and their success. We ask ourselves, do I earn more money than them? Is she better looking than me? Have they got a bigger house than me?

We constantly beat ourselves up over whether somebody else is doing better than we are or whether our lives would be better if we had their lives. Is this really healthy? I would say not. By comparing ourselves to countless other people in the world we often neglect to analyse our true competitor, OURSELVES!

The only person we truly compete with in our lives is ourselves. We are the only person that is really limiting our potential, our success and our chance of having that dream life. The more time we waste comparing ourselves to other people the less time we have to spend tackling our true competitor. So STOP now! Forget the person that lives next door to you with the bigger conservatory and the newer car, forget the couple who drive past you everyday at the bus stop in their brand new BMW, think about you and how to compete with yourself and your own limiting beliefs.

You are the only person in your life that will determine how successful you are and whether or not you will get a promotion or a new house or a new car. Once you learn to deal with yourself, free yourself from those limiting beliefs and encourage yourself to do better then you will start to see improvements in your life.

Changing your life is not easy and it does take time but if you truly believe you deserve better and you really want it then it will be worth the time and the effort. And surely it is better than standing at the bus stop wishing you were driving that BMW? Do not take no for an answer!

I am going to look at a few ideas that can start to help you compete with yourself and aide your life changing process and these are ideas that I am already implementing in my own life and I must say they are making me feel better already.

Having taken a long hard look at myself I have realised that over the last few years I have been sabotaging myself by constantly comparing myself and my situation to that of everybody else. This has had the effect of making me unhappy with what I have got and any attempts to improve my situation have failed because I have talked myself out of doing any thing about it because I have lacked self belief and the motivation to carry on.

Now I know this I have been able to step back and concentrate on identifying my limitations and dealing with them. The important lesson I have learnt is to stop “self sabotage”. Do not tell yourself that you can’t do it or you will never succeed at because surprise, surprise, if you tell yourself that then other people will see that. You need to start telling your self good positive things to begin to feel good about yourself. Another important point is to realise that it is ok to compete with others because it gives you motivation to carry on but you must be happy with yourself and not compare yourself to others.

You need to find yourself and be yourself – After all there is only one person on the planet that is like you. Nobody else can be you but you, you can not trade places with anybody else and there is no dress rehearsal in life. Look deep inside yourself, find the person you know you can be, embrace that person and be that person. So taking action sooner rather than later will give you results quicker and nothing short of amazing should do as you only have one shot at life!

Self belief is critical to your success as a person and your success in anything that you do in life. You are the only person, that will truly belief in you and your abilities. Not believing in yourself is probably the worst thing you can do because you immediately limit your potential by reinforcing your mind with negative thoughts and the more you do it the more negative you become. We all know that negative things are bad; you hear them on the news everyday. In order to regain your self belief and to start believing in yourself you need to tackle all the negativity in your life.

Banish negativity from your life. This can be a challenge because you have years of negativity to deal with. When we are all born we enter the world with a positive mind that is new to the world and has yet to learn what life is about. Over the years we are conditioned by our parents and society what is right and what is wrong. From the moment you are born you are probably told “no. don’t touch that”, “no, you naughty boy” and so on. Of course you are also told positive things, but as society as a whole is quite negative most people become conditioned in a negative way.

Unless you realise this early on in your life you miss the opportunity to correct it. It can be done at anytime but it just takes a lot of time and effort, which does not mean you, should not do it!

You need to stat assessing your life and removing those things which are negative in your life and replacing them with positive things. For instance you should consider whether your friends have a negative influence on you. Now I am not saying that you should just abandon your friends because that would be bad but you should at least begin to assess where the negative influences are and control how much you see them and when you do see them you should make a strong effort to control what you allow into your brain, disregarding anything that they say that you think is negative and counter productive.

Start filling your mind with positive statements everyday and remove the negative ones for example replace “I can’t do that” with “yes, I can do that”. Tell yourself “I am great”, “I believe in myself” and as many positive statements as you can to reinforce you belief in yourself and to banish that negativity that holds you back.

Standards are important, how high are yours? If your standards are notoriously low then you seriously need to re address them. As I said above you only have one shot at life and you should set your standards as high as possible. When you are doing this you need to be sensibly because if you set them so high that you can not reach them you are going be disappointed all of the time which will be counter productive to what you are trying to achieve. You need to set yourself a standard that you can obtain and then raise the bar a little further every time you achieve them which will always give you something to strive for in life.

Only you have the power to make changes in your life because everybody else in the world is too involved in there own lives to really worry about whether or not you need to change your life. There are people out there that will help you, myself included but only you have the power to change your life. You need to take control of your own life and make your own decisions about how you want your life to turn out and whether or not you will settle for what you have or whether you want more in your life. Either way, which ever choice you make you are the one that ultimately has to be happy with what you have got.

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